Love Notes: What You Want & Need

What do you want out of your relationship?  There's the question for today.  I'm posing it to you in hopes you are asking what does that mean?

Here's what it means....you have to know what you want out of your relationship for it to be the relationship you need.

The same goes for your spouse.  What do they want out of their marriage to you?  What do they expect?

What do you expect?

Sure you want love that lasts on into eternity and you want stability and all that jazz.  

But what else do you crave from your spouse to know that you are loved and respected and worth so much?

Today is a total throw back to an extremely popular book by Gary Chapman...this is old hat guys but it is truth and it is good and you need to use this tool to strengthen your marriage.

Ever heard of The Five Love Languages?



Chances are you have heard about this book and chances are some of you have read it or taken the quiz to find out what your love language is.  

Nothing helped my husband and myself understand how to show love more than this 90 second quiz.

My love language is tied between two different languages (shocker, right?)....I best ways I receive love through 1.  Acts of Service (that means my husband helping me out with the kids and house and things) and 2.  Quality Time (time minus cell phones, just being together and enjoying each other without rush)



My husband's love language is Quality Time.

We are extremely rare and extremely lucky to speak and show love in the same way.  It is most common to have a totally different love language than your spouse.

The other three love languages are:

Whose touchy feely?  This is for the person who best feels love through touch (we're talking non sexual today).  They enjoy the hand holding, pats on the back, hugs, etc.
 
This has nothing to do with a Coach purse but then again it could.  This is more for the person who feels love through things made for them it could be a Snickers bar or a handmade card and maybe at Christmas or on a special day (Valentine's???) a big gift that they have been eyeing for quite a while.
 
Sometimes you need to hear the words that translate to love.  They are the compliments and words of encouragement and I love you texts that show up out of no where.

I challenge you {this week of love} to visit 5 Love Languages Official Website and then you and your spouse or partner take the quiz.  Then do the most important part - share your results.

It is amazing how much you can learn in 2 minutes. For example:  Your love language is gifts but your spouse is words of affirmation and lately all you do is feel anger and resentment....well look you were speaking different languages of love and expecting 100% comprehension!  

You cannot speak English to a person who only speaks Mandarin and expect them to understand you.  It is the same with our marriages - if we think everyone speaks words of affirmation then those who need quality time to feel loved are lost in the lack of translation!

The most awesome thing about The Five Love Languages is that it affects every relationship in your life.  This is the way you feel wanted and respected in friendships, in family, and at the job.  Embrace this chance to love and grow in all your relationships this week!