Showing posts with label the tribe-less. Show all posts
Showing posts with label the tribe-less. Show all posts

Friday, July 15, 2016

Fri-Boom-Shak-A-Laka-Day

Hello you beautiful person!  And hello you beautiful day!  It is Friday as per the usual I'm linking up with the fabulous Katie and over at Christina's as well.

This week is a mix of notes and recap.  I thought I would change up my format a little bit!





This week started with what I am going to deem as my most favorite post - thus far - that I have written about girl life.  The term tribe for friendships is very trendy right now and also something you should totally celebrate if you are a member of one!  But if you're not or if you're wondering why not everyone identifies with a tribe then you should check out my post.  Not only was it my most read this post - wow on those numbers - it was also my most shared post in blog history.  Holy rum runners, y'all!

One thing I really enjoyed was reading your comments and seeing how you translated the post to identify.  My most favorite thing about writing, just like art, is that every time we write people interpret it so differently.  Sure, my own message was not quite matching up to what others read and gained from it but that is what makes writing and sharing so incredibly wonderful.

Thank you so much for your love, identification, and most of all sweetness in every comment, email, share, etc.  You guys are why I adore being a blogger and letting my writing continue!

Read the post here:




This week dragged in the dog days of summer.  Our temperatures hover between ninety and ninety-seven.  The humidity is about seventy percent most days.  I swear on Monday the air in North Carolina failed to move!  But don't think I am complaining.  Since I'm not suffering from breathing disorders I bask in the thick heat.



Of course it helps that we combat the heat by diving into the pool!  Last weekend we had one of our precious family days just hanging out in the water together.  My son was able to ditch the swimmies and swim like a little turtle all around the pool - he even started jumping off the diving board!  Our daughter was able to have a fun swim date at her friend's A&A's house and then spend a day at the water park with our church's elementary youth group.

When it is really hot and humid I don't want to eat very much.  Needless to say I'm not cooking that much this week so I shared another listing of stuff I am eating - I lovingly call it crap.  I'm going for more fruit and light as air foods this month.

Check out:





In our home we have three vehicles.
1.  A Kia Optima named Kelly.  She's actually the only one with a name because she is my regular ride.  I love my car and honestly cannot think of driving anything else on the regular at this point.  She is comfy and cozy.  She is a light drinker.  She's just a good girl.  Now, I should probably knock on wood because once you compliment a car something generally goes down.

2.  The Exploder, I mean Explorer.  This old piece of crap is nineteen and is my husband's daily driver.  I hate that car.  It is ugly, it is old, and when you are in it you get a simulation of being in a blender.  It rattles and shakes and sounds like it may bust apart.  A couple weeks ago the radiator shared that it had a hole in it with us and that was just plain out delightful.

3.  The Chevy.  Our full size truck and the vehicle of choice for longer drives and vacations.  It is large and comfortable but it is so very bad on gas.  Where my car is the light drinker the Chevy is a full blown alcoholic.  This is the only vehicle we are making any payments on so I love it but I hate the damned thing too.

We're about to take off on a mini get away to the coast.  Since we're not going to be there very long we realize we don't need to pack the entire house and half of Walmart.  That means we're taking Kelly Kia instead of the Chevy (I really need to name her!  Maybe Shelly Chevy?)  That also means we're extremely limited on packing.  This is not a fete I am generally good at.  Packing light means I forget 75% of what I need or end up having 1.5 outfits.  I posted my plan as well as my Pinterest 5 for he light packing trial on Wednesday.

The post:



Friends, I'm sad.  I finished a fabulous book on Wednesday night - after cleaning and organizing and watching RHONY.  The book was so good I could sit down and read so many chapters at one time.  Lately, for me I have been struggling to really get into anything I am reading but this one was the book that changed that.  If you need a good summer read and you can stomach a romance then you need to read 


set in the 1930's on the coast of Rhode Island.

Next up I am starting:

 



Is best summed up like this...

Typography Pt. 01 by Manas Pratim Sarma #typography #typostrate:




Next week will be limited over here at ABW.  I have some posts that will be publishing out but I won' be able to respond to comments and emails quite as quickly as normal.  I'm taking a little time to myself.  You can still catch me on some of my social media accounts though!



Have a wonderful weekend.

xo-
Amanda



Monday, July 11, 2016

The Tribe-less Girls

A couple weeks ago a lot of bloggers were taking part in a link up about their tribes.  You know...the group of women they surround themselves with.  The group that helps lift them up, define them, and make them who they are.

I didn't link up.

I simply do not have a tribe.  And I realize I'm not the only one who is tribe-less.

It's part of who I am- I guess. Raising my hand to the fact I have issues with trusting people and letting my guard down.  Yes, I admit I have to research you by watching you like a hawk and listening like a bat when I'm in your presence before I can feel comfortable enough to crack my shell a bit around you.

When I do let the shell crack I can be pretty fun to be around.  I have dry humor and can support you like no other.  Its just that I have these issues with being comfortable enough to do it.  I'm not sure who you are and if you're going to unload on me like an assault rifle (please don't) or if you're going to be a pretty amazing human being!

I am the girl who always felt more comfortable with guy friends due to the fact they didn't stir the shit or have this ambition to pull out their inner cat.

Because I always will. My best friend deserves nothing less than the world because she is amazing. #blessed #bffluv:
This fits Ashley & I to a T!

Admitting:  I'm a lone ranger.  Well that's a lie I have my best friend - so I'm a semi lone ranger.

Part of this is because I'm the walking definition of a Scorpio.  I'm so protective over myself and family that I fail to drop my guard.  I don't trust easily. Guilty I have been of having had a lot of those types of friends that are friends of convenience and will drop you so fast you didn't know it happened.  Case in point:  I had a super close friend for years whom I haven't heard from since January and since January she's apparently got married, changed jobs, and is living it up in her new life.

It really hurts when you are written off and it makes you that much more defensive of yourself.  Episodes such as that leave you buttoning, zipping, and locking your guard into place.  When you're so close with someone and they so easily extract you from their life - I just don't have time for that.

But here's what you should know about us lone rangers in a world of tribes.  We get lonely.  We want to drop our guard but at the same time we're so afraid of being stabbed in the back we just cannot let go of that iron curtain we keep hanging up.

Does anyone else struggle with this, like I do? Oh my! ‪#‎moms‬ ‪#‎funny‬:

So before you judge that tribe-less chick you may want to get to know her a little first.  Make the effort to step up to the plate while she's trying to stifle her anxiety or predisposition to spectate.

You may just add one hell of a member to your own tribe and make her life a little less lonely.

xo-
Amanda