1.15.13
It’s the middle of the first month of the New Year. Did you know that yesterday was the most
depressing day of the year? Apparently
there is a research group that came up with that after questioning random
people over a course of so many years.
The reasons were:
1. Holidays
officially over
2. Vacations are done or
pretty far out on the calendar for most people
3. Bad weather
4. Any
resolutions that were made are normally already broken by this point.
I started thinking about that and how they apply to me.
1. I’m
glad the holidays are over. No problem
there.
2. Vacations, well keep reading.
3. Bad
weather. Can I get an A-MEN? Oh man we are getting monsooned (yeah I know
its not a word, do I care? Take the G.Dub
mentality here, no). If it were twenty
degrees colder this would be some super snow.
I just keep telling myself the ground is going to be perfect for some
planting in a couple months.
4. I made a resolution and well you’re still
reading it so I have apparently kept it (personal celebration, hold on, almost
over…….ok.)
So if you are in the low down dumps…..I hope I can make you
smile for at least a nanosecond.
Yesterday was a total Monday. Felt that whole – gross this is Monday
feeling. Then I realized I was breathing
and covered by sturdy shelter during the rain so I got over myself. Yesterday was also a bit of a mess. I didn’t get half the crap done I wanted
to. The baby had his first fall – never trust
a car seat. He’s fine! He was more angry than anything. But I was feeling horrible about it. He was in the carseat which was on the ottoman. I had went to turn the stove off and my
daughter says, “Um mommy, the baby fell out of the carseat and its on top of
him.” Yep she was calm as a cucumber. She was acting as if this was as normal as
brushing your teeth. I bolted into the
livingroom and sure enough baby was on the floor with the carseat on him. He didn’t cry until I held him against me and
he heard my heart beating 50,000 beats a second. I was frazzled and he was fine.....tis mommyhood!
I had some odd people pull in my driveway and decide to walk
around. This all happened after I
watched a video for a class I am taking in February. The video was about personal protection. It really was ironic how all this played out. I look out my window and two young men are
walking around my driveway like it’s a public rest area. I pulled out my phone, stood at the
door. OH yeah my phone is powerful I
tell ya. They stared at me and I at
them. Seriously, what happened to brains
along the way? I would never in ten
million trillion years think to pull in a person’s drive way and just walk
around. I have something called common
sense. I was lucky to get that gene
*apparently*. For ten minutes these young guns walked around my driveway like it was a happy fun zone. I was about to be Brownie and walk outside
and ever so unpolitely tell them to get in their vehicle and find a public
place to stretch their legs (with the addition of words that would make a sailor blush). However, I
didn’t know their intent and the idea of having a 9mm pulled on me didn’t sound
too fun for a Monday. They eventually
got in their truck and left. How odd though.
Seriously. Am I the only person
who thinks it is odd to randomly pull in a driveway and walk around like it’s a
Burger King parking lot? Talk to me
people, am I missing something?
The dog went to his grooming appointment yesterday only to
come home and go ape all over the yard (maybe he smelled the lingering scent of dumbasses that were there earlier).
Why is it when I schedule his appointments it never fails to be a rainy,
nasty day? In his mad dash of crazed lunacy from returning home from the groomers I just knew he was going to head
into the highway and become chopped shihtzu liver. I had just spent some money on him so he was
destined to just end it all. It seems
that way for me. If I drop some money on
an animal it decides life isn’t worth living and finds a car to become one
with. Luckily, yesterday was not his day
to end it all. After catching him and
wiping his paws he was good to go – inside.
Maybe I am seeing why January 14th
is the most depressing day of the year.
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So I am a list maker.
Anyone else here subscribe to that lifestyle? Making lists so they can keep up with what
they need to be doing and the satisfaction of marking things off as they are
completed? Its like heroine or something
for me! Seriously! Well I’ll say its like heroine, I’m too much
of a common senser to do those hard insane drugs that MTV loves to do shows on. I will just stick to wine and Super B
Complex.
Every day I will make a list of things I want to get done
that day and every night I will go over that list and move what didn’t get done
to the next available day for that chore.
Some days the list is minimal, some days its too much for a week let
alone a day. Some days I look at my list
and say – “Ugh I hate my boss!” then I realize my boss is me. Some days I look at my list and say – “Awesome
sauce!”
My list for yesterday was pretty freaking awesome! And it’s all thanks to my husband.
I have to be sappy for a second – bear with me.
When I say I am blessed and I know it – I mean it. I am not blowing hot air up your ass. Not only do I have the two bestest kids ever
and cutest dog on the earth I also have the best marriage possible. Look – we haven’t had an easy go of it. We’ve had those shitake mushroom times where
I was ready to end the legal union and say, "this marriage has been brought to you by the letter F, as in f-you buddy". Our earlier years were plagued with
stupidity, selfishness, and ridiculousness.
I will be the first to admit to being married and hating every blasted
minute of it. Then something happened
and I’m not sure when it happened. There’s
no one moment in our marriage where I can say – “Yep that was it”. But a bunch of things started happening –
they were tiny little blips that really went unnoticed and brought us to where
we are today. Some of it had to do with
getting a little older, some of it had to do with blocking out all those little
fire ants that were too busy filling our heads full of the runs, and a lot of
it had to do with allowing the Big Man to come in and do some work on our
hearts and minds. Today – I am the happiest
wife on the planet. A happy marriage for
us isn’t money in the bank, trying to keep up with the Joneses, trying to make
everyone think we’re something we’re not – our marriage is happy because we are
each other’s best friend – seriously.
We gave up on the idea of jealousy. We
honestly DO give a crap about each other.
We wake up talking and go to bed talking. We know drama is damning. We take each other into account when planning
things to do. And though this may sound
crazy to the majority of married people – we want to be around each other. We aren’t scheduling events to be apart. Some people claim to have one day a week to
be their family day. We prefer every day be our family day. Now don’t get me wrong – we also schedule
date nights to be together sans children.
Many of those date nights include other couples we enjoy being around
who also have some of the same things going on as us (mainly small children
that are trying to turn the home into a dictatorship). My husband is pretty in
tune with me and I with him. We finish
each other’s sentences and thoughts and we know we are way stronger together
than apart. I never worry he’s looking
elsewhere for anything he isn’t getting at home. I know his issues just like he knows mine and
we work to make life easier for each other while protecting each other in the
best way we know how. I’m 100% real and
he’s matched me. Yeah I may be bragging
but by God I have every right to. Where
we came from and where we are…..it is pretty amazing. If I could give you a tip or two on marriage
it would be: stop looking at other
couples, stop talking about your problems with your friends, and start looking
at your marriage and talking to your spouse.
Every day, after the kids are in the bed (if you have them) or the dog
is snoozing and not stealing the show, get a beverage and start talking. If you can’t find the words or the topic….you
may be in deep water. Stop being mad too. I was always pissed at my husband and being
pissed gets you to nowhere good super fast.
If you can’t stop being mad then you need to work on you. I see more blogs about this coming in the
future.
PSA over.
So yesterday my husband sends me a text. This text came seriously from heaven. I tell you that because you don’t know how
many days I dream of getting away for just 24 hours to lay in a big, fluffy bed
with champagne and a tv (that I have the remote to) and room service on
demand. A place where there are no
crying kids, whining kids, angry kids.
No “this is the wost day evah” from my kid’s mouth. And I can sleep past 6:30am. No laundry to do. No dishes to wash! No place to drive to. Ahhhhh I dream of that….just a little
bit! Just a day!
My husband sent me a text saying I needed to find a place
for us to go for our anniversary. No, not
a dinner out and then back home but a weekend getaway to just escape and
celebrate our marriage.
You know I’m a budget freak…..this wasn’t in the
budget. He said not to worry about that....just find the place. He gave me the limits monetarily.
We’ve been going on little trips for our anniversary since
we celebrated number 1. This is nothing
new but God knows it was the best news I have heard since August 24th.
If I have ever needed some time to recharge and revamp it is now.
So yesterday’s list was awesome…..
Now comes the OCD side of me to
find a place to getaway to…..
What did I make for dinner?
Well I had some leftover meat sauce from princess spaghetti
dinner night – I threw together some veggie rotini in a dish, covered with the
meat sauce, added in another can of tomato sauce, covered it in parmesan and
mozzarella – baked it for 30 minutes at 300.
Yep that was it. It was good and
will be served at lunch today.
Tonight….doing my Southern
duties of going all out to make some chicken pie, mashed taters, and green
beans baby.
Until we meet again –
Brownie
